Society has many ways to decide whether a woman is a “good woman” or not.

Are her clothes are too short?
Is she coming home too late?
Is she spending too much time with a male friend?
Does she have a boyfriend?
Does she want to live alone?
Does she want to go out at night?
Does she not want to get married?
Is she married to someone her family did not choose or approve of?

And the most uncomfortable part is, more often than not, it comes from home.

It also comes from neighbours, strangers, and certain groups who claim that they are saving their “culture” and that certain behaviour is threatening their idea of culture or tradition.

This is where the idea of moral policing comes in.

Moral policing in India is commonly used to describe attempts to enforce a particular idea of morality or behaviour, often through intimidation, public shaming, or, in many cases, violence.

This raises a bigger question:

Who gets to decide how another person should live?

What is moral policing in India?

Moral policing is a term commonly used to describe attempts by individuals or groups to impose their ideas of morality on other people.

It can involve what someone wears, whom they date, whether they show affection in public, whom they marry, or whether they follow traditional expectations about relationships and gender roles.

People may have personal, cultural, or religious beliefs about relationships and behaviour.

But no one has the right to impose that belief on others.

That distinction becomes particularly important when social pressure turns into threats, harassment, intimidation or violence.

Why are women so often at the centre of it?

When it comes to moral policing in India, women face a particularly intense form of scrutiny.

One reason is the way women’s bodies and behaviour have traditionally been connected to ideas of family “honour” and respectability.

Women are often expected to maintain the reputation of the entire family

That can place a disproportionate burden on them.

A woman’s clothes can become a statement about her character.

Her being in a relationship can become a question about her family’s honour.

Going out at night or partying can be treated as evidence that she is not “Sanskari”(cultured) enough.

And that is where moral policing becomes more than a disagreement about clothing, dating or tradition.

It becomes a question of who is allowed to make choices for women.

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Some of the real cases of moral policing in India

There have been several incidents across India where people have been confronted, harassed, or attacked because others believed their behaviour was unacceptable.

One of the recent cases of moral policing that made headlines was from Jamui, Bihar, where two Class 10 students, a girl and a boy, were harassed and assaulted, and the girl was also sexually assaulted by a group of people. The incident was also filmed and circulated.

The disturbing part is that the people confronting them reportedly treated their presence together as something they had the right to police.

If you live in India, you have probably seen some version of the annual debate around Valentine’s Day.

Every year, certain right-wing nationalist groups harass and intimidate couples in public spaces like parks and malls.

Campaigns against moral policing in India

There have been several campaings against the moral policing.

One of the very famous campaigns was the “Pub bharo“ campaign that was against the violent attack on the women in a pub in Mangalore on January 24, 2009.

The campaign was led by Tejaswini Chowdhury, daughter of then Union
Minister for Women and Child Development, Renuka Chowdhury, urging more people to go pub.

Another campaign against this attack was “Pink chaddi,” which urged people to send pink underwear to the chief of the Sri Ram Sena who masterminded the attack on the women in the pub.

Another very controversial campaign against moral policing in India was the 2014 Kiss of Love protest.

The Kiss of Love campaign began in Kerala after a coffee shop in Kozhikode was vandalised following allegations of “immoral” activity involving a young couple. Organisers called for a public protest in Kochi where participants would kiss or hug to challenge moral policing.

The protest itself became controversial.

Police detained participants, while groups opposed to the event also gathered at the venue. The situation became tense, and reports described clashes and disruption around the protest.

This protest attracted a lot of criticism.

But the idea behind it was simple.

To end moral policing in India and let people practice their fundamental rights.

The bigger question

The issue is not really whether society should have values.

Every society has values, cultures, and traditions.

The difficult question is what happens when one person’s values become another person’s restrictions.

A person can disagree with someone else’s clothes, relationship or lifestyle.

But disagreement does not necessarily create authority.

And when social disapproval turns into threats, humiliation, coercion, or violence, it becomes dangerous

For women especially, the question is tied to something fundamental: the right to make decisions about their own lives.

Indian constitutional jurisprudence has repeatedly connected dignity and individual freedom with autonomy and personal choice.

Perhaps that is why the conversation about moral policing deserves to move beyond the familiar question of whether something is “modern” or “traditional.”

The more important question is simpler:

Who gets to decide?

Because a society can have traditions, values and disagreements without requiring women to give up their right to choose.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What is moral policing in India?

Moral policing in India refers to attempts by individuals or groups to impose their ideas of morality, culture or acceptable behaviour on others. It can involve public shaming, harassment, intimidation or, in serious cases, violence.

2. Why does moral policing in India often affect women?

Moral policing in India often affects women because their clothing, relationships, mobility and personal choices are frequently connected to ideas of family honour and social respectability. This can result in women facing greater scrutiny over their behaviour.

3. What are some examples of moral policing in India?

Examples of moral policing in India can include confronting couples in public, objecting to women’s clothing, restricting women’s mobility, harassing people over relationships, or attempting to enforce particular cultural or social norms through intimidation.

4. Is moral policing legal in India?

Moral policing in India is not a specific offence with one single legal definition. However, acts carried out in the name of morality can potentially involve offences such as harassment, assault, intimidation or unlawful restraint, depending on the circumstances.

5. What is the difference between moral policing and expressing an opinion?

The difference is largely about control and conduct. Someone can disagree with another person’s clothing, relationship or lifestyle. But disagreement does not give that person the right to threaten, harass, assault or forcibly control them.

6. How does moral policing affect women’s freedom?

Moral policing in India can restrict women’s freedom by creating pressure around what they wear, where they go, whom they meet, whom they date and whether they make choices that conform to traditional expectations.

7. What role does family play in moral policing?

Family can sometimes become a source of moral policing when concerns about reputation, honour or social expectations are used to control a woman’s personal choices. However, families can also express genuine concerns about safety, so concern and coercive control should not automatically be treated as the same thing.

8. What was the Pink Chaddi Campaign?

The Pink Chaddi Campaign was a 2009 online protest launched after the Mangalore pub attack. Participants were encouraged to send pink underwear to Sri Ram Sena leader Pramod Muthalik as a satirical protest against moral policing and the attack on women.

9. What was the Kiss of Love protest?

The Kiss of Love was a 2014 protest movement that began in Kerala against moral policing and objections to public displays of affection. The campaign later appeared in several Indian cities and generated both support and opposition.

10. How can moral policing in India be challenged?

Challenging moral policing in India involves protecting individual autonomy and distinguishing personal disagreement from coercion, harassment or violence. Public discussion, awareness of constitutional rights, legal accountability and challenging gender-based double standards can all form part of that conversation.